Gettin' Fed Up...

Hey everybody, so I’m back once again with your weekly update! First things first, did anybody else enjoy that extra of sleep thanks to daylight savings time??? I sure did, I mean I have NO idea why we have daylight savings time, something about people being more productive and saving on heating and whatnot but I DO enjoy the “fall back”, it puts such an extra pep in peoples step, and c’mon that extra hour of sleep is FANTASTIC! Now to “spring forward” is a whole other issue but we’ll talk about that when it rolls around, until then just enjoy the extra hour energy you might have until your body gets completely used to it!

So lets get down to business….

In a time long, long, LOOOONNGGG ago, (I’m talking high school which actually is not to long ago but stay with me) I used to be junky…really junky. I used to let stuff pile up in my room, clothes, papers, pens, anything, (keep in mind I said junky not nasty, never food or things that could rot) I mean you name it and I did not like to clean up. It was very frustrating for my parents who were actually very tidy. You know…” a place for everything and everything in its place” kinda folks, so they don’t know where I came from…suppose I just inherited the “junk gene” from somewhere else.

Now don’t get me wrong, I was never a pre-existing candidate for “Hoarders,” usually when it got to much, my parents told me “Clean!” but I always felt like it was a hassle…then I got to college, wasn’t much room to BE junky in the dorms so that wasn’t too much of a problem but when I was FINALLY able to move into my own apartment, my junk-gene kicked in again but it remained in my room, all common areas were clean and suitable for guests because my roomie/good friend was NOT having that, and she wondered why I was so junky, and I just shrugged her off. If she asked me to clean, I did, but like when I was a child, it just felt like a hassle until ONE DAY I finally got it, I woke up and was absolutely sick of looking at my room all junky, I just HAD to clean it, AND my bathroom, and it scared my roommate (mainly because I almost turned my bathroom into a gas chamber mixing various chemicals to get it clean) but also because she was wondering why I would want to clean it after all the times SHE told me and of what she knew my PARENTS had told me, I mean why would I all of a sudden want to be neater???

The answer was simple, I was fed up…not because of what everyone else had told me, but personally I was fed up, I was tired of searching for papers, or clothes, or pens, or anything I needed I just wanted everything not to be a struggle for myself, and I realized being neater would make that happen, and I just realized recently that my silly junky situation was a bit of a metaphor for life.

The point of my narrative down memory lane was to explain that people don’t change until they want to. It’s personal change that happens internally, hence the ‘personal’ part and no one can force that on you. I found this point especially true when it comes to relationships. (Personal side note: I love to observe relationships, especially my friends), And this particular situation I’ve observed a number of times but have you ever seen your friend in a crappy relationship and you tell them so many times to dump that ‘loser’ or whatever explicit you choose, and for a while they might but the odds are they just go back to him or her or find another jerk that resembles the one you just told her to kick the curb. It’s so very frustrating because one: you’re sittin there like ‘what’s the deal, you can do WAY better’ but two: because they appear to like it, maybe even love it, and they feel there’s nothing wrong with it so there’s no need fix what isn’t broke in their relationship so to speak.

I mean, let’s keep in mind, most people don’t change things because things are going good…you change things because you NEED a change, you CRAVE it, you WANT it, and it could be something as simple as my need to go from junk-tastic to keeping it cleanly or could be more serious like concerning a job, being in certain position and then maybe applying for a different or higher position, or like I said, being in relationships like if someone is doing you wrong, you just might let them keep doing you wrong until YOU get fed up with the situation and decide that something needs to be done. No one can force change upon on you…actually they could, but in those cases it doesn’t always last.

You have to be ready to do something about it, and it doesn’t always happen over night. Sometimes it’s a work in progress, little things you do to help make changes easier, sometimes its fast like mine was, you just wake up, can’t stand it anymore and then boom, its changed. The way it works however, doesn’t change the moment it takes you to get there, its about seeing your situation, no matter what it is, putting your foot down and saying, enough is enough.

Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned from my former junky self, to observing my friends relationships, it’s that when you get tired…really tired or fed up…. Nothing in the world can stop you from making a change. Just something to think about...

~Kei~